divorce is a state of mind
Divorced people have reacted to news of my divorce quite differently than non-divorced people.
Basically, every non-divorced person offers some form of condolence, or some sophisticatedly bifurcated response, with shades of condolence and congratulations. There’s a sensitivity in their voices, a sense that they’re thoughtfully navigating a tremendous amount of hurt that they imagine I’m going through.
This is extremely kind and I don’t mind it at all. However, it does feel like it’s directed towards some idea of my situation that doesn’t necessarily map onto reality.