I would be curious to hear your expanded thoughts on environment and place-choosing, both as it relates to ways of evaluating places as well as when this thinking crosses the line into escapism/distraction/unsettledness.
I enjoy jamming on this topic. I think that where you live—the city, the country, the type of people it attracts — has more impact on your well being than any other factor.
Use a website like nomadlist to find places you might enjoy and then try living a "mini-life" there for 30+ days to see what it would be like.
Do you have any other posts where you talk about the appreciative/evaluative distinction? Or maybe recommendations to other pieces of writing? It feels deep and real and I want to be able to bring it up to people who seem stuck in one of the two modes.
Actually, #42 was mind-blowing. If you're right, it ruined 1/50 and you're an asshole. But if you're wrong, it ruined 0/50 yet you're still an asshole. So where's your credibility, genius?
Great list. I really appreciate content like this. Also admirably succinct; I would've needed additional sentences to express each point.
> I know that the people who will make you feel warm and fuzzy when you’re sad, and the people who will give you brutally honest feedback, are usually different people.
Are there characters in well-known movies who plausibly model both, whether or not in the same scene? Particularly interested in male ones.
> The world will be happiest with a certain range of behaviors from you—life will be easier if you find a place in that range where you’re content. David Whyte calls this the conversational nature of reality, and he is correct about the importance of this concept.
Regarding #50, this is something I love about the music scene in Britain, and maybe elsewhere too. After someone plays, the accepted etiquette is to always say "that was a great set"
I am very curious if you have ‘a system’ for Internalizing these to a point that they become part of how you act.
After I finish my cup of coffee and get back to my routine, I will most likely forget most of the advice, and my auto-pilot system 1 will drive with very little change from before.
How did you come to REALLY know all ghe above and to integrate them in your daily life? Some are habits, some are tricks to keep in mind, some are one time thing. What has worked for you to make learning these a more deliberate act, and not something you remember doing only when you read it online (which is what I do most of the time)?
this post is worth a million bucks goddamn
when you become a billionaire i will retroactively accept the market value you have selected
Most of what is on the Internets is garbage. This is not.
fully agree. Which one was your favourite, shani?
Feet on the ground, breathe through the ass.
Your insight in 15 (confident people are fluid with status) is so spot-on.
In my experience, truly confident people refrain from creating a sense of self, clinging to neither praise nor blame.
Thank you for these 🔥
These are excellent!
I would be curious to hear your expanded thoughts on environment and place-choosing, both as it relates to ways of evaluating places as well as when this thinking crosses the line into escapism/distraction/unsettledness.
will put this on the list of topics, thanks!
I enjoy jamming on this topic. I think that where you live—the city, the country, the type of people it attracts — has more impact on your well being than any other factor.
Use a website like nomadlist to find places you might enjoy and then try living a "mini-life" there for 30+ days to see what it would be like.
I wrote about choosing a new home, maybe you'll find it useful: https://serendipitylab.substack.com/p/on-finding-a-new-home
Thanks for sharing - just gave it a read, enjoyed it and will comment on the post.
I ended up highlighting into readwise about every other item here. What a treasure trove of wisdom!!
Will sit down and read through this soon. Love the concept 🙂
Do you have any other posts where you talk about the appreciative/evaluative distinction? Or maybe recommendations to other pieces of writing? It feels deep and real and I want to be able to bring it up to people who seem stuck in one of the two modes.
i wrote this brief post about it a long time ago — my evaluative side obliges me to mention that it's not my best work, and i'd significantly rewrite it now: https://sashachapin.substack.com/p/two-modes-of-being
https://innerwilds.blog/p/solving-mcgilchrists-big-problem < this is some more substantial material on the subject!
This felt like it was written straight to me and to the people I most love. I’m sharing it. Thank you.
Many good points. But #42 ruined your credibility.
Actually, #42 was mind-blowing. If you're right, it ruined 1/50 and you're an asshole. But if you're wrong, it ruined 0/50 yet you're still an asshole. So where's your credibility, genius?
And here I thought #42 was one of the best on this sterling list.
Great list. I really appreciate content like this. Also admirably succinct; I would've needed additional sentences to express each point.
> I know that the people who will make you feel warm and fuzzy when you’re sad, and the people who will give you brutally honest feedback, are usually different people.
Are there characters in well-known movies who plausibly model both, whether or not in the same scene? Particularly interested in male ones.
> The world will be happiest with a certain range of behaviors from you—life will be easier if you find a place in that range where you’re content. David Whyte calls this the conversational nature of reality, and he is correct about the importance of this concept.
I looked this up, and found a few good excerpts from Whyte near the bottom of https://jonathanrowson.substack.com/p/the-conversational-nature-of-reality
in a post full of heavy hitters, love that “breathe thru your asshole” and “think about your feet” are so immediately, resoundingly effective
Sasha you’re one of the only writers I follow that can reach out and touch me with words
Regarding #50, this is something I love about the music scene in Britain, and maybe elsewhere too. After someone plays, the accepted etiquette is to always say "that was a great set"
Lots of wisdom per ounce here, nicely done!
One level up on the ginger I learned after years using a spoon: don't even bother peeling it. Works perfectly! https://www.thekitchn.com/why-you-should-never-peel-ginger-23604549
omg
Until I have time to go through this, here is the opposite, kind of. Though it is funny.
https://patorjk.com/misc/chainletters/179waystoannoypeople.htm
this is exactly my kind of juvenile, thank you
Such a great read as always, Sasha!
I am very curious if you have ‘a system’ for Internalizing these to a point that they become part of how you act.
After I finish my cup of coffee and get back to my routine, I will most likely forget most of the advice, and my auto-pilot system 1 will drive with very little change from before.
How did you come to REALLY know all ghe above and to integrate them in your daily life? Some are habits, some are tricks to keep in mind, some are one time thing. What has worked for you to make learning these a more deliberate act, and not something you remember doing only when you read it online (which is what I do most of the time)?
i think honestly it's just reinforcement — each one of these has come up repeatedly in my life and i've learned quite slowly overall!
Excellent question.