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May 23Liked by Sasha Chapin

this post is worth a million bucks goddamn

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when you become a billionaire i will retroactively accept the market value you have selected

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Most of what is on the Internets is garbage. This is not.

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fully agree. Which one was your favourite, shani?

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May 23·edited May 23Liked by Sasha Chapin

Your insight in 15 (confident people are fluid with status) is so spot-on.

In my experience, truly confident people refrain from creating a sense of self, clinging to neither praise nor blame.

Thank you for these 🔥

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These are excellent!

I would be curious to hear your expanded thoughts on environment and place-choosing, both as it relates to ways of evaluating places as well as when this thinking crosses the line into escapism/distraction/unsettledness.

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will put this on the list of topics, thanks!

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I enjoy jamming on this topic. I think that where you live—the city, the country, the type of people it attracts — has more impact on your well being than any other factor.

Use a website like nomadlist to find places you might enjoy and then try living a "mini-life" there for 30+ days to see what it would be like.

I wrote about choosing a new home, maybe you'll find it useful: https://serendipitylab.substack.com/p/on-finding-a-new-home

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Thanks for sharing - just gave it a read, enjoyed it and will comment on the post.

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I ended up highlighting into readwise about every other item here. What a treasure trove of wisdom!!

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Will sit down and read through this soon. Love the concept 🙂

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May 24Liked by Sasha Chapin

in a post full of heavy hitters, love that “breathe thru your asshole” and “think about your feet” are so immediately, resoundingly effective

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Do you have any other posts where you talk about the appreciative/evaluative distinction? Or maybe recommendations to other pieces of writing? It feels deep and real and I want to be able to bring it up to people who seem stuck in one of the two modes.

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i wrote this brief post about it a long time ago — my evaluative side obliges me to mention that it's not my best work, and i'd significantly rewrite it now: https://sashachapin.substack.com/p/two-modes-of-being

https://innerwilds.blog/p/solving-mcgilchrists-big-problem < this is some more substantial material on the subject!

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May 27Liked by Sasha Chapin

Regarding #50, this is something I love about the music scene in Britain, and maybe elsewhere too. After someone plays, the accepted etiquette is to always say "that was a great set"

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Lots of wisdom per ounce here, nicely done!

One level up on the ginger I learned after years using a spoon: don't even bother peeling it. Works perfectly! https://www.thekitchn.com/why-you-should-never-peel-ginger-23604549

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omg

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May 26Liked by Sasha Chapin

This felt like it was written straight to me and to the people I most love. I’m sharing it. Thank you.

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May 26Liked by Sasha Chapin

Many good points. But #42 ruined your credibility.

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And here I thought #42 was one of the best on this sterling list.

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May 24Liked by Sasha Chapin

Until I have time to go through this, here is the opposite, kind of. Though it is funny.

https://patorjk.com/misc/chainletters/179waystoannoypeople.htm

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this is exactly my kind of juvenile, thank you

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May 24Liked by Sasha Chapin

Such a great read as always, Sasha!

I am very curious if you have ‘a system’ for Internalizing these to a point that they become part of how you act.

After I finish my cup of coffee and get back to my routine, I will most likely forget most of the advice, and my auto-pilot system 1 will drive with very little change from before.

How did you come to REALLY know all ghe above and to integrate them in your daily life? Some are habits, some are tricks to keep in mind, some are one time thing. What has worked for you to make learning these a more deliberate act, and not something you remember doing only when you read it online (which is what I do most of the time)?

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i think honestly it's just reinforcement — each one of these has come up repeatedly in my life and i've learned quite slowly overall!

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May 24Liked by Sasha Chapin

Feet on the ground, breathe through the ass.

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May 24Liked by Sasha Chapin

#33, man, #33. I wish someone would've given me that advice a long time ago, and that I would've been mature enough to listen.

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Same here Ryan. Felt that one.

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May 23Liked by Sasha Chapin

Long time reader first time commenter. You've taught me a lot over the past few years. Thank you!

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thank you for reading!

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