I see this a lot in my work as a therapist and coach. Many of my clients are men and entrepreneurs or small business owners, and the thing holding them back in their business is almost never a "business" problem. It could be unresolved trauma, a substance abuse problem, or a relationship issue, but once they address it, they are miraculously freed to take the steps they needed to take in their business, but were avoiding. And, I see the same pattern in myself. If there's something in my business that I'm avoiding (bookkeeping, I'm looking at you) then there's it's usually because there's an emotion that I'm avoiding feeling.
So grateful for this brilliant post!! 🙏 I've also been exploring this fertile territory — how truly important our emotional states (what I'm calling "heartsets," much like mindsets) are to our ability to work successfully with others, and sustain our energy & engagement over the marathon that is our work lives. We're human — we feel feelings — so let's accept that, and then learn more about ourselves and how to thrive. AND, with more global awareness around the value of understanding our emotions, we can shift the whole narrative towards better ways of working! 💪
I see this a lot in my work as a therapist and coach. Many of my clients are men and entrepreneurs or small business owners, and the thing holding them back in their business is almost never a "business" problem. It could be unresolved trauma, a substance abuse problem, or a relationship issue, but once they address it, they are miraculously freed to take the steps they needed to take in their business, but were avoiding. And, I see the same pattern in myself. If there's something in my business that I'm avoiding (bookkeeping, I'm looking at you) then there's it's usually because there's an emotion that I'm avoiding feeling.
There’s a perfect quote for this topic: “Impression without expression means depression. With expression, it becomes liberation.”― Dennis F. Kinlaw,
Now, the only question is how one finds the perfect expression for suppression which lead to liberation:)
Resonates. I feel this as a High School English (foreign language) teacher, where the emotional blocks are the biggest ones.
I'm curious about those times when this wasn't the block, how this factored into helping a person learn these new skills.
So grateful for this brilliant post!! 🙏 I've also been exploring this fertile territory — how truly important our emotional states (what I'm calling "heartsets," much like mindsets) are to our ability to work successfully with others, and sustain our energy & engagement over the marathon that is our work lives. We're human — we feel feelings — so let's accept that, and then learn more about ourselves and how to thrive. AND, with more global awareness around the value of understanding our emotions, we can shift the whole narrative towards better ways of working! 💪
Excellent work! It's amazing how much emotions are neglected in life in general.