Everyone told us that our wedding would be stressful. It wasn’t—it was, in fact, an extremely fun, low-stress affair that left us feeling more connected and more excited to be newlyweds, rather than comatose with post-wedding exhaustion and pre-wedding conflicts. The hardest part was picking out a sports coat that was unusual enough to satisfy Sasha while not being too silly for Cate.
I love this and I love that you did exactly what you wanted and kept it small. I just wrote an essay about how I did the exact opposite. But the conclusion I drew (basically "you have permission to do what you feel like for your wedding and you should because it's for you and it's special") tracks with this. Marriage is super dope. More dope people should write about how great it is.
This is the kind of wedding I want, unless someone else (it'd probably have to be my future partner's family lol) cuts me a 50 grand check for it. I was talking with friends who attended weddings and apparently it's customary for people to ask money for the wedding/honeymoon which to me is kinda ridiculous, not gonna lie. I understand it and if I'm invited I'll pay up but it feels like the kind of mess I don't want to get into
I had a similarly small wedding, with little planning and reception in our backyard. The wedding ceremony was held in a park, which was an extinct volcano crater filled with glorious trees, a place that meant
Something to me. We had a friend of my brother's do two types of trays of main food, one of which was a Thai beef noodle salad, in and there were various savoury nibbles and sweets. Like yours, we had no cake.
The whole thing probably came to about the same as your wedding, in today's prices. Everyone commented on how they loved the food, too.
And no-one was left with a large debt. One month later my brother married with a big wedding and all the fanfare. He and his wife were left with a huge debt; the marriage lasted three months.
As someone who was there, I thought it was a wonderful wedding. Right up there with Sasha's older brother's wedding during the first phase of the pandemic: 11 people, also in a backyard. Hard to choose between the two except that Sasha's wedding was minus the Covid anxiety. I would like to gently differ with Sasha on one thing: the cheese board was awesome! Good for both of you.
I loved that last line so much! That said; their is some usefulness in pomp, flair and solemnity! Especially in a culture like mine where the community is not just a spectator on the marriage but a part of it; they support you and in some ways hold you accountable which comes in very handy when triviality sets in.
I love this and I love that you did exactly what you wanted and kept it small. I just wrote an essay about how I did the exact opposite. But the conclusion I drew (basically "you have permission to do what you feel like for your wedding and you should because it's for you and it's special") tracks with this. Marriage is super dope. More dope people should write about how great it is.
I very much believe in “many different cakes,” this should be the norm!
This is the kind of wedding I want, unless someone else (it'd probably have to be my future partner's family lol) cuts me a 50 grand check for it. I was talking with friends who attended weddings and apparently it's customary for people to ask money for the wedding/honeymoon which to me is kinda ridiculous, not gonna lie. I understand it and if I'm invited I'll pay up but it feels like the kind of mess I don't want to get into
I had a similarly small wedding, with little planning and reception in our backyard. The wedding ceremony was held in a park, which was an extinct volcano crater filled with glorious trees, a place that meant
Something to me. We had a friend of my brother's do two types of trays of main food, one of which was a Thai beef noodle salad, in and there were various savoury nibbles and sweets. Like yours, we had no cake.
The whole thing probably came to about the same as your wedding, in today's prices. Everyone commented on how they loved the food, too.
And no-one was left with a large debt. One month later my brother married with a big wedding and all the fanfare. He and his wife were left with a huge debt; the marriage lasted three months.
Bookmarking this and also: congratulations to you both. ♥🙏
As someone who was there, I thought it was a wonderful wedding. Right up there with Sasha's older brother's wedding during the first phase of the pandemic: 11 people, also in a backyard. Hard to choose between the two except that Sasha's wedding was minus the Covid anxiety. I would like to gently differ with Sasha on one thing: the cheese board was awesome! Good for both of you.
congrats :-)
I loved that last line so much! That said; their is some usefulness in pomp, flair and solemnity! Especially in a culture like mine where the community is not just a spectator on the marriage but a part of it; they support you and in some ways hold you accountable which comes in very handy when triviality sets in.
Congratulations both of you🩶